The Humble Brag

so you like to humblebrag

The humble brag.

You know what I’m talking about. It rears it’s ugly head in the form of something like this;

“Just selected to speak at the You’re Awesome Conference. #humblebrag”

“Lastest blog post has over 15,000 views!! #humblebrag”

The point of this post is to tell you one thing. Knock it off!

Now…allow me to explain. This humble brag business sounds and comes off as wanting, no, NEEDING validation for our successes no matter how big or small. Knock it off!

Listen. Chances are if you feel the need to put humble brag in front of something or at the end of the something, you are already doing something that is above and beyond what is expected. Why feel the need to be humble about it? Seriously. If I finish all the races I plan to run this summer (AROO!) do you seriously think I’m going to tweet out, “Hey, just finished a Spartan Race with my best time. #humblebrag”? Heck no! I accomplished MY goal. I ran MY race. Nothing to be humble about and actually something to be very proud about.

The humble brag.

It is a complex aspect of having a digital identity isn’t it? You don’t want to get a reputation for bragging about what you’ve accomplished lately but you also want to let people know something you are proud of. Quite the pickle. Here’s how to avoid the notion that you need to downplay your achievements.

1) Ask, “Do I really need to share this?”
Now, this may sound contradictory but not everything really needs to be shared in a public forum that you feel proud of. If you really want to share it because you just can’t control your excitement, e-mail your inner circle, your board of trustees, your confidence architects. There isn’t a need to get on a soapbox with a megaphone and announcement it (remember that’s what Twitter gives you).

2) Be selective.
If you find yourself doing nothing but sharing accomplishments online, then you run the risk of being a braggart and coming off as narcissistic. If you sandwich the fact that you just got selected for a national committee with “Just finished the most amazing sandwich I made myself” and “Laundry for the day done. I feel so accomplished” then what value are you really giving that committee announcement?

3) Own it.
You did something that got you excited enough to want to scream it from the rooftops. Own it. Don’t downplay it. Don’t be ashamed of it. OWN IT! Just remember, somethings are better shared with your confidence architects versus everyone in your Twittersphere or Facebook connections.

4) Share it.
“But you just told me not to share everything! Joe, this blog is confusing!” What I mean by share it, is use your accomplishment as a springboard for someone else to share theirs.

“Just finished my first 10 mile race!! What was your first race like?”
“Woo! Happy to say I earned an A on my final. What are you working towards these days?”

This allows you to share your excitement for your accomplishment but it opens the door for someone who may be shy about talking about themselves or their accomplishments.

If you can’t be confident and proud in your accomplishments, how can we expect our students to be?

The humble brag.

Knock it off!

This post coincides with one by Mallory Bower which is linked through the word “confidence architects” in this post.